The American Red Cross

24 May 2010

A Runaway Love

One in seven youth will run away from home before the age of 18.
David Finkelhor's conclusions about the effects and the impact of child sex abuse is transparently clear. Not unanimously agreed upon, but still clear.
1/3 will be approached to enter the sex trade with in 48 hours.
Obviously, there are a number of variables involved when you look at a person's response to sex abuse. Age, sex of the victim and the offender, the extent of sexual abuse, the relationship between the victim and the offender, the reaction of others to the knowledge of sexual abuse and other life experiences to name a few. But there are four general categories, all having to do with psychological and behavioral effects of a CHILD.
Runaways are often the victims of sexual abuse before they leave home.
#1 Traumatic sexualization. Included in the psychological outcomes of traumatic sexualization are aversive feelings about sex, overvaluing sex, and sexual identity problems. Behavioral manifestations of traumatic sexualization constitute a range of hypersexual behaviors as well as avoidance of or negative sexual encounters.
They feel that it's safer on the streets than to live at home ...
#2 Stigmatization. Common psychological manifestations of stigmatization are what Sgroi calls "damaged goods syndrome"43 and feelings of guilt and responsibility for the abuse or the consequences of disclosure. These feelings are likely to be reflected in self-destructive behaviors such as substance abuse, risk-taking acts, self-mutilation, suicidal gestures and acts, and provocative behavior designed to elicit punishment.
... so they run.
#3 Betrayal. Perhaps the most fundamental damage from sexual abuse is its undermining of trust in those people who are supposed to be protectors and nurturers. Other psychological impacts of betrayal include anger and borderline functioning. Behavior that reflects this trauma includes avoidance of investment in others, manipulating others, re-enacting the trauma through subsequent involvement in exploitive and damaging relationships, and engaging in angry and acting-out behaviors.
Unfortunately, runaways understand abuse.
#4 Powerlessness. The psychological impact of the trauma of powerlessness includes both a perception of vulnerability and victimization and a desire to control or prevail, often by identification with the aggressor. As with the trauma of betrayal, behavioral manifestations may involve aggression and exploitation of others. On the other hand, the vulnerability effect of powerlessness may be avoidant responses, such as dissociation and running away; behavioral manifestations of anxiety, including phobias, sleep problems, elimination problems, and eating problems; and revictimization.
[trauma, stigmatization, betrayal; they also know about being powerless]
 So a pimp doesn't have to put them thru the normal break-in process.



Even though they will try ...


...shes already broken.


SOURCES:
Song:Runaway Love - listen now
http://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/usermanuals/sexabuse/sexabuseb.cfm

America Won't Respond to Rape

Curiosity Is Sometimes Deadly















TALK PLAINLY to your own; as it is one of the worst temptations not to know what we have to meet with. - Dr Carle C. Quale

22 May 2010

An Official Pimp Slap!

OUT with Human Trafficking

“We don’t want to create a hype around 2010 but we fear it [human trafficking] will increase for purposes of commercial sex work,” said Major Marike Venter, national coordinator of the Salvation Army anti trafficking task team.


Fears of increased human trafficking during the World Cup prompted the Salvation Army to launch a toll-free hotline, which was launched in Johannesburg on 27 January 2010, to take tips and assist victims of human trafficking in the country. The initiative is a joint project between The Salvation Army and BE HEARD, an organization with ten years experience in operating anonymous tip-off services. The number - 0800-RESCUE or 08000-737283 - is expected to operate 24 hours a day and will have operators answering calls in a multitude of languages.

SOURCE

A Victory for the Internet and Humanity


EXCLUSIVE: One Of The Heroes Behind the MetaFilter Human-Trafficking Rescue Speaks Out


Late Wednesday night, Kathrine Gutierrez Hines, 24, came across a frightening story—unfolding in real time on an online message board—about two young Russian women who, by the looks of it, were about to unwittingly become hostesses at a seedy nightclub. Now, less than 48 hours later, they are sleeping in her Chelsea apartment in Manhattan, and she is trying to keep them safe while helping them figure out their next move. In an exclusive interview with NEWSWEEK, she tells her story, which, unfortunately, isn’t over yet.
"Awesome story about Americans that still have a soft spot in their heart for strangers. Great read for anyone interested in success stories involving the Internet and sex trafficking"
[To read the entire article click here]


21 May 2010

Illegal and Inappropriate

Craigslist is by far the largest single advertiser of commercial sex in the world. The website has earned the title "Rich Pimp" with profits of US$36.3 from sex ads alone. With that said, are they THE problem?
As of 2008, prostitution on the Internet has been flourishing as many sex workers have moved to Internet sites such as Craigslist, MySpace, Eros.com and myRedBook to solicit sexual encounters. In turn, pimps have used these sites to broker their women.
Responding to pressure from the NCMEC and the attorneys general of 40 states, Craigslist placed new limits on its adult ads last November. Among other reforms, the site now charges $5 for the formerly free postings, allowing it to collect and store the poster’s credit card number and name, making it available to law enforcement subpoenas in any future criminal investigation.
"Misuse of Craigslist for criminal purposes is unacceptable, and Craigslist continues to work with it's partners in law enforcement to eliminate it. Of the thousands of U.S. venues that carry adult service ads...Craigslist has done the best and most responsible job of combating child exploitation and human trafficking." - Jim Buckmaster, CEO

Posting volume in our ‘erotic services’ category is down 85-90 percent" as a result of the measures. Those ads that remain are much more compliant with our terms of use." - CEO Jim Buckmaster in an e-mail
Nevertheless, a month after the measure was adopted, an underage girl missing from New Jersey turned up in a prostitution post on Craigslist. Police spotted her nude photo in an ad offering in-call services in Miami, 1,200 miles away from her home. She was rescued, and her alleged pimp, Ali Hakim, was indicted last month on sex trafficking and related charges.

Tech-savvy pimps use social networking sites such as Facebook, MySpace or Twitter to recruit young, troubled, and often underage users.
"We’re seeing kids who are getting into this stuff that do not match society’s stereotype ... These are not just kids in poor families who have no other options. We’re seeing kids from the full spectrum of society, and a lot of that is due to recruitment over the Internet." - says Ernie Allen, president and CEO of the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, NCMEC

Last June, a 14-year-old Ohio girl ran away with a 30-year-old Florida pimp named Alan Townsend, after meeting him on the social networking site Urbanchat.com. According to court records, Townsend used his senior prostitute, 27-year-old Courtney Shine, to gain the victim’s trust and convince her that a career in modeling awaited if she drove with them to Florida.
"This happens, and it happens a lot more than people realize ... We don’t want to terrify parents. But if their kids are at risk, they’re at more risk online." - Parry Aftab, founder and director of WiredSafety, which advises children on Internet risks.
THIS JUST IN:
UNDERCOVER VIDEO: THE CRAIGSLIST PROSTITUTION STING
Is illegal prostitution still rampant on website?

SOURCE:

20 May 2010

A National Disgrace



A prostitute is someone who will love you
No matter who you are or what you look like
Yes, it's true children! ... BUT WHO WILL LOVE THE PROSTITUTE?



SOURCE:
teen suicide

Movie Review

Title: The Bridge to Nowhere - 2009

Genre: Fantasy | Crime | Drama

Status: Released 17 August 2009

Rated: R for drug use, pervasive language, sexual content and violence.

Director: Blair Underwood

Staring: Ving Rhames, Bijou Phillips, Danny Masterson and Alex Breckenridge
This movie is filled with real life situations and dilemmas. The acting isn't the best, but the director's point comes across crystal clear. This will remind everyone that an easy way out will probably take us nowhere fast.

I recommend it for Friday night entertainment or an educational tool involving a handful of young men and women. I rate this movie a 8.5 out of teen, mainly because of the "okay" acting. - Janvier






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Plot: The Bridge to Nowhere is the story of four young 20-something men from the rough Upper North Side of Pittsburgh. They are stuck in dead-end jobs and struggle with dysfunctional family lives. The guys, inspired by the images of pop culture and the desire to break away from the neighborhood, regularly scheme to make extra money by running minor underground activities, including: sports booking, poker tournaments and house parties. One night during an evening out the four young men stumble across the "new neighbors", two independent prostitutes, Jasper and Sienna, who end up inspiring a new business idea. Trapped in her own existence, Jasper, agrees to join forces with the young men to create, quite accidentally, what turns out to be an empire that launches each of them into financial riches. Along the way each character battles their own demons regarding the choices they have made. In the end, however, their world comes crashing down on them in grandiose fashion. It's the city of bridges, where water separates the haves and have-nots, the bridge they sought so desperately to cross ultimately ends up being The Bridge To Nowhere.
Contains: profanity, organized crime, violence, nudity, racism, prostitution, drug trafficking

19 May 2010

Convenient Porn App

 
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18 May 2010

Do it better than Lady Gaga VI

From painting to photography▬Steven Klein's experience as a fashion photographer is extensive to say the least. After working with names like Calvin Klein and D & G, Steven's photos can be described as a story filled with fashion, fantasy and sex, all caught in one shot. But celibacy ... I think not. Its a shame, because he's now the director of Gaga's new video for the song Alejandro.

If you remember last month it was celibacy for Lady Gaga. She told her fans that celibacy was a good solution against the Aids virus, especially since [she's] been without sex for the past year. This month she's somewhere between celibacy, a Steven Klein photo shoot and walking around Sweden in see-through underwear. Which is cool ... no sense in being extreme.

On to my next step about celibacy. Yes you can practice celibacy in a relationship until you get married, if both agree. I actually suggest it. Its a great way to grow closer and put real issues on the for-front; and you do it without all the cuddle time. Trust me, the less you make out when you're dating, the better the first year of marriage will be when you tie the knot.

I heard a doctor tell a story about a young couple who has to live with STDs the rest of their life. The father said that he was always safe with his wife when they had sex. But he forgot to tell her about that prostitute he slept with when he was seventeen. He got herpes when he lost his virginity, so now she has it and so does their new born. The baby was born with brain damage, which is how the doctor realized what happened. So what does SAFE mean anyway? Who knows, just make sure you protect yourself, make the decision and stand by it.

With all the distractions of sex in today's media working against a long lasting relationship, it may even be best to spend more time away from each other before the marriage than you expected. I'm going to go into that a little more next time in our last and final post of the series. For now, do all that you can to do it better than Lady Gaga.


SOURCES:
http://macaidsfund.org/
http://edition.cnn.com/2010/SHOWBIZ/04/12/pro.abstinence.celebs.tf/
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/home/you/article-1264165/Lady-Gaga-gets-lippy-The-pop-star-teams-Mac-raise-Aids-awareness.html
http://www.wikihow.com/Live-a-Life-of-Celibacy
http://perezhilton.com/2010-05-06-gaga-does-idol
http://globalgrind.com/channel/gossip/content/1568527/lady-gaga-half-naked-lost-the-queens-underwear-photos/
http://www.stevenkleinstudio.com/www/index.html

17 May 2010

Steadfast Modesty Clothing

Steadfast Modesty Clothing is asking you to support the women of Rahad's Hope; an organization that rescues women from the sex trade in India. Steadfast Modesty is committed to giving 20% of their profit from their primary line and 50% from their hand-sewn line. Rahab's Hope is responsible for the rehabilitation of 1600 former sex workers since 2004.

14 May 2010

HOW TO: An Internet Predator's Profile and [MO]

By now most adults have seen the show 'To Catch a Predator' with Chris Hansen. But the problem with that is most teens and kids know very little about it. I know this from experience. Today I'm covering what online predators look like. The profile of an Internet Predator and how they operate will be very useful as everything in our daily lives goes tech.

What does a predator look like?
  • Male
  • Seductive
  • Introverted
  • Sadistic
  • Sexually indiscriminate

This is the thing, you don't know what they look like. They could be anyone. But instead of being paranoid about every strange male you meet, educate your kids on whats normal behavior and whats not. Be their source for solutions; don't be the one they run from when things at home are tough.

Their Method of Operating:

First you have to understand that kids in social networking, blogs, chat rooms, instant messaging, e-mail, discussion boards, and other Web sites are easy targets.

Some predators have been known to gradually seduce their targets through the use of attention, affection, kindness, and even gifts.

They are willing to devote considerable amounts of time, money, and energy to this process as you could imagine.

They know the latest music and hobbies that are likely to interest kids, and will listen to and sympathize with kids' problems.

They also try to lower young people's inhibitions by gradually introducing sexual content into their conversations.

Other predators are faster workers: they engage in sexually explicit conversations with children immediately. This more direct approach may include harassment or stalking.

Lastly, a predators could also be evaluating the kids they meet online for future face-to-face contact, which is very likely.

Its impossible to try to attack each one of these items separately. Get a game plan together with your family if your the parent. Plan ahead for potential dangers. Live free without the worry of something happening, but be prepared incase something does.

This is just a portion of information about predators and how the work. Next time I'm going to cover the most important topic of 'how kids become vicimized' and 'what kid are potential victims'. This will be the last post of the 'HOW TO' series, so stay tuned. Till then enjoy a showing from Chris Hansen's 'To Catch a Predator'. Enjoy!



SOURCES:
http://www.media-awareness.ca/english/resources/special_initiatives/wa_resources/wa_shared/backgrounders/online_predators.cfm
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/21134540/vp/25111014#25111014
http://www.microsoft.com/protect/parents/social/predators.aspx